Girls don’t pick their noses. Did you know that?
They also don’t fart, or belch in public, and they all just adore children.
And boys. They never cry when reading books or watching movies, they’re always better drivers than women, they don’t care what other people think of them, and they don’t open up doors for girls because chivalry is dead, right?
Am I right?
I was astounded to learn from someone last weekend that apparently girls don’t fart. Or pick their noses.
Yes, this came from a man. A very naive man, I think.
I found it quite funny, but it got me thinking about all the misconceptions and stereotypes we immediately place our characters into.
Boys will be boys, and girls will be girls. I really hate that! The most interesting characters to me are the ones who break the mold.
Not that I’m advocating for women everywhere to take up nose-picking as a new hobby, or that men should weep at every movie they see, but I find it amazing how, even in today’s “forward-thinking” society, we still have a tendency to place our characters into boxes when they were made to break out of them.
I know I’ve done this a few times, and I always have to bash myself over the head so that my characters don’t end up being too bland. I don’t want people to roll their eyes at what my characters say or do. I want them to laugh out loud at something unexpected, or weep in sorrow when a twist of fate brings hardship into their lives.
Can anybody tell me why we still jam people into boxes like that? It confounds me, honestly.
Do I think chivalry is dead? Yes, mostly. Would I like to see a resurgence of it? Absolutely.
Is there a lack of refined women in society? Yes, I think so. Would I like to see that changed? Yes, again.
But I’m here to tell you that men and women, no matter their cliches and habits, shouldn’t be stripped down into the misconceptions we have towards each sex. There’s a reason cliches were started, but I don’t want to be one of them.
Girls fart. Get over it, guys. They also poop. Apparently that’s news, as well.
And guys do cry when there’s something sad on. But ladies, don’t let that stop you from liking them. You can’t cram men into the always-strong-never-afraid-he-man-macho-man box because, honestly, a majority of them don’t fit in it. And that’s okay.
Have any of you noticed this in your reading/writing? I’ve seen a remarkable number of cliched characters lately, and it makes me wonder how they got past the agent, editor, and publisher.
Am I alone in this thinking?
Btw, apologies for my longish absence. I was maid of honor in a wedding last weekend and, while an awesome experience, didn’t leave much time for blogging. I also stupidly picked up a bunch of hours at my second job in the next two months, so my posts may be fewer. I’m sure you’ll adjust. 🙂
Let’s go break some molds!!
“It is a cliche that most cliches are true, but then like most cliches, that cliche is untrue.”
― Stephen Fry
“Let’s have some new cliches.”
― Samuel Goldwyn